Shruti and I have been married for a year. And as I told a single friend a few days ago- I highly recommend marriage. Not just for the security that it gives of being with someone who loves you. Not just for all of the physical, emotional, monetary (if both partners are working that is) comforts that come with a marriage. I recommend it, because it is exciting like a joy ride.
Take a look at this picture (below). It is a perfect metaphor. It was taken from inside a cable car, on our Honeymoon in Langkawi.
It is not too fast, not too slow. The future looks great. You have a sense of anticipation building with each second. You get to explore a lot. You learn so much about life and the opposite sex. And you keep learning. You get to do so many these things with someone special.
This metaphor also points to the risk of ending up with someone who is not right for you. Then it becomes a jail, a prison cell where you escape into a freefall. But let me tell you this- It is a risk worth taking. It is worth putting your life at the highest altitude, with the person that you love (if you are getting arranged then with the person that you will love).
And whether you are in love with the person or not, you must remember that there are still a few things that you might have to deal with. Things beyond your control- the metaphoric winds of economic, spiritual, professional uncertainties might rock your cable car. Things in your control like mood swings and a few nagging personality traits, could also cause you to bounce around and make the string attached to your cable car to question its own tensile strength.
And I ask you- if all of these did not exist- then where is the fun in life.
In a few hours Shruti and I will be completing our first year together. We have discovered art. She paints like a raving Picasso. I write like an obsessive... (not going to compare myself to a famous writer and incur the rebuke of his/her fans so let me just say) half a Tolkien.
I absolutely adore this girl. I am spell bound, awed, totally addicted, totally attached, inspired, loved, cared and I run out of words if I try to describe my experience with this woman.
My cable car is heaven right now.
She is a woman who greatly underestimates her own self, but greatly overestimates 'Ajit.' Why, just the other day she called me 'handsome'. A great improvement from 'cute' (a word that I greatly detest). And you can take it from those who know me and have seen me in close quarters, my mother included, the words 'not ugly' best describe me.
Words that I myself think are more than worthy of my face with the disproportionately large nose. But Handsome!
Jokes apart- she does overestimate me. And in a not bad way- in a way that is not too demanding.
Which brings me to the most important reason why I recommend marriage. She brings out the best in me. She encourages, she stokes, she supports, she approves, she gives constructive criticism and last but not the least she advices in moderation (and because of the moderation I almost always see her point, even though I might not admit it right away).
This is how I look at it- on the day after Christmas when God gave the gift of his son, God gave me the gift Shru.
And that is why I highly recommend :)
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